The purpose of this blog is start a conversation on the changing family in American culture. It has no doubt been in transition for some time now. As a therapist I am interested, not only in what makes people tick, but also what makes them stick- as in coming together as a couple and/or staying together as a family. 

Some questions to consider are:

1) How would you define "family" in the 21st century? and what are the factors at work that have made for this shift in the family unity? 

2) How do you define "Marriage" for the 21st century family?

3) What do "Men" want & need for a commited- relationship?

4) What do "Women" want & need for a commited- relationship?

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The Changing Family

Posted by mmatise on October 7, 2013 at 5:30 PM Comments comments (1)

As a therapist, one of the roles I find myself in is helping people in general stay with it. By that I mean push through the hard times in their lives because they will be stronger when they work through tough issues in their lives, rather than avoiding them or distracting themselves somehow. As this relates to couples and families, my primary role is to faciliate a long-overdue dialogue between the people involved and get honest about who they are, where they've come from and where they are going, in terms of their values and beliefs as it relates to their family mission. Sometimes it works and other times it doesn't. Sometimes the tension and discomfort are simply too great to be dealt with at that time. So, in order to deal with them, a split occurs. I believe our cultural values, messages, and pressures don't help much, in terms of delaying gratification, overcoming adversity, and enduring the existential pain of relationships. We've come a long way from "the good ole days" of the Baby Boomer generation and we are changing as a result of the amount of information we subsume. I often ask myself, "What is going on?" and how can we cope with this changing tide, as it relates to interpersonal relationships? Change is happening, whether we like it or not, so the real question is how can we role with the change and make it into something positive as it relates to family success.

I'd love to hear what you have to say about these and/or other issues on these topics.......thanks for reading.